As deployment approaches, it’s common to feel the stresses that come with anticipation and a sense of loss.
What can I expect?
It can be hard to accept that partners are going to leave, causing unexpressed anger to surface. This is a naturally emotional time, so these tensions and some arguments are not unusual.
Restlessness, depression or irritability are also common at this stage. Deployed personnel often feel a sense of guilt, while their loved ones may be angry or resentful.
Who is affected?
All the family will be feeling emotional tension at this stage. It’s common to internalise these feelings to preserve the wellbeing of the person being deployed, however it is also constructive to be open and candid. These conversations can sometimes be painful and stressful, but this is outweighed by clearing the air, so you can be there for one another.
How can I prepare?
In the time leading up to deployment, there are some practical areas to consider to avoid unnecessary last minute stress and maximise time to enjoy together as a family.
Utilities
Do you know how to turn off the water, gas and electricity? Or how the heating system works? Who is your service provider? If not, find out before a loved one deploys.
Documentation
Make sure you know where all important documents are kept.
Renewal dates
Make a list of when important things need renewing. For example, you need to be aware when your car tax, MOT, car service, and insurances are due.
Will
Make sure you know where your will is to remove any worry.
Property
If your property is going to be empty for some time, check that your home and its contents are insured. It may be worth considering re-directing your mail and giving a door key to a neighbour.
Financial
In association with the British Legion and the Ministry of Defence, MoneyForce has been established as the home of financial guidance for UK Service Personnel and their families.
